Mind, Body and Soul Archive
Please select the links below to view previously featured articles designed to nourish your Inner Bride

Engagement, What Women Really Experience

Reduce Wedding Stress - Reclaim your Life!

Beautiful Bride - Arrive at the Altar Positively Radiant

Brides - Fend Your Female Friendships!

Miffed By His Mom? How to Make Amends with your Mother-in-Law

Suffering from Identity Crisis?
Behind the Last Name (Change)

One Love-Two Faiths
Planning an Interfaith Wedding Ceremony

Bridal Beauty
The Bridal Countdown

Dreading His Bachelor Party?
Here's How to Deal...

Got Cold Feet?
What to do When you Want to Say I Don't

What to Expect During
The First Weeks of Engagement

How to Juggle Wedding Planning
With Your Career

Emotionally Engaged - 11 Must Ask Questions before the Wedding

How to Avoid the
Top 5 Bridesmaid Dilemmas

How to Plan for a
Healthy Financial Future

Bridal Boot Camp -
The Fastest Way to Get in Shape!

Bridal Shower -
6 Ideas for More Meaningful Showers

Are you Becoming Bridezilla?
5 Tips to Avoid the Monster

How to Plan a Green Wedding

Bridal Fitness Basics -
Fitness and Nutrition Guide

Bridal Pampering -
A Spa Services Guide for Brides


8 Fights to Have Before Your Wedding Day

Being a bride-to-be is certainly fabulous – a sparkling rock on your left hand, a valid excuse to go overboard on shopping (you need those Manolos for your honeymoon, after all), parties thrown in your honor, blowout arguments with your fiance... Uh, I beg your pardon??

Of course we jest – but there’s a hint of truth here. Remember, the engagement period is more than the time needed to plan a big party. It’s also the trial run for your marriage and future life together. And guess what - any unresolved issues during your engagement are clues to future marriage woes. The bottom line - discuss potential challenges and disagreements now, not after you’ve cut the wedding cake.

So while up until now you may have been the couple that never fights – here’s your chance. Read this list of the top pre-wedding fights – er – discussions to have before you say “I do.”

The "Don't Leave the Toilet Seat Up" Tussle

Now’s the time to address any petty grievances you both may have ignored until now. You’ve heard it a thousand times, and it holds true here – communication is key. We know - blah, blah, blah - but it's cliche for a reason. You need to clear the air now, because these little gripes - left unsaid – can build up underlying tension over the years – only to bubble over and explode into a completely unrelated future argument. Remember to keep this discussion productive and lighthearted. Nagging or initiating a screaming duel over his pants left on the floor (again) is not going to solve anything.

The "You Want Me To Do What?" Melee

Unless a personal maid and assistant is on your bridal registry (a novel idea!) - someone’s gonna have to scour the shared bathroom in your new dwelling… You'll soon find that they key to marital bliss is agreement on whose task is whose. While an itemized chore list is a tad ambitious, lay out expectations in advance and avoid future blowups. You should know each other well enough by this point to divvy tasks accordingly: common sense dictates that your fiance who bounced 3 checks last month should relinquish bill duty, and if your white sheets are now gray - best hand over laundry duty. And while you're divvying out chores - discuss broader marriage roles. How do you see yourself as a wife? a mother? a professional? How does he see himself?

The "When Should We Procreate?" Debate

Don’t even consider walking down that aisle without a game plan for children. Avoid this discussion, and you risk bringing innocent bystanders into a world of dysfunction - namely, yours. Before your wedding day, reach a consensus on: when those little feet will start to pitter patter, how many feet will be doing the pattering, and whether they’ll even patter at all.

The "Festivus for the Rest of Us" Controversy

If your Tree is his Festivus Pole – it’s time to talk religion. Combining two faiths can be tricky. Discuss together your values, and identify what religious traditions are most meaningful for each of you to incorporate into your wedding ceremony and marriage. How will you combine holidays? Raise your children? And even if you share the same religious background – what role will religion play in your life together?

The "Not Tonight Dear, I Have a Headache" Tug of War

Sure – things may be spicy now – but your sex life is bound to evolve and change a number of times throughout your marriage. What are your sexual expectations? Are you able to speak openly about sex? Have a frank discussion now – when your relationship is new and confidence is high. Otherwise, you risk establishing a pattern of avoidance and inability to discuss sexual wants and needs - a huge marital red flag.

The "Does This Make Me Look Fat?" Confrontation

‘Til death do you part... that allows an awful long time for your body to age. And even if you both succeed in fighting off middle age weight gain, inevitable wrinkles, gray hairs, or hairs in the wrong places will eventually makeover your once- youthful selves. How are you going to deal? What are your expectations for your own and your spouse's physical upkeep?

The "You charged WHAT to the Amex?" Brawl

Without a doubt – financial woes are one of the main stressors in a marriage and a primary cause of divorce. For new couples, the topic of money can be uncomfortable – and certainly unromantic. But how romantic will it be when you're forced to pawn that rock on your left finger to pay off your groom’s insurmountable gambling debts? Bottom line – get over yourself – and practice full financial disclosure. What will be your combined income as a newly married couple? Do you have any current debt and how will you manage it together? Is there anything (real estate, travel, college fund) for which you’re willing to take on debt? How will you manage savings? Investments? How and when do you plan to retire?

The “Not So All in the Family” Feud

Ah, in laws – the quintessential love/hate relationship. Remember – when you marry the man – you also marry the family. So while it’s not essential to tell your hubby-to-be exactly how you feel about his needling mother, it is important to come to terms with family involvement and what level of closeness is acceptable. If your idea of the perfect Thanksgiving involves skiing in Switzerland and his involves a big sit down with his extended family in Toledo – it’s best to express these expectations out now, and start crafting a compromise.

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