Mother of the Groom Basics

Ah, yes – you know the saying: You’re only supposed to show up, shut up, and wear beige. The truth is there is a bit more to it than that, especially as weddings become joint efforts that are no longer solely planned by the bride’s family. While customs vary from family to family, here is a general guide of what’s usually expected from the mother of the groom (MOG):

MOG – Your Role

  • Make Introductions Introduce the bride to the groom’s side of the family, help introduce the rest of the families to each other, and act as the ambassador for your side of the family.
  • Offer Financial Assistance Be aware of expenses typically assigned to the groom’s side and offer any assistance you can.
  • Prepare your List Compile the guest list for your side of the family, consulting with the bride on space and budget limitations. Be the main point of contact and handle any delinquent RSVPs for your side of the list.
  • Plan and Host the Rehearsal Dinner You should probably consult with the couple first to make sure you’re both on the same page. Read more about planning a rehearsal dinner
  • Pick your Attire Consult with the MOB on her style of wedding gown, and shop for your gown as soon as possible. Traditionally, you wait for her cue, but if she’s lagging, feel free to call and initiate the discussion. Learn more about finding a mother-of-the-groom dress for your son’s wedding.
  • Incorporate Your Side Help the groom with any of your family’s traditions he’ll incorporate into the wedding.
  • Attend the Pre-Parties Including the bridal shower, engagement party, and rehearsal dinner (you may even help organize these events – especially the rehearsal dinner).
  • Hit the Dance Floor Help choose a song for the mother/son dance – and dance with your son at the wedding.
  • Lend a Hand Offer and be willing to take on wedding planning tasks when asked.
  • Spread the Word As friends and family members ask, tell them where the couple has registered.
  • Help Host Stand in the receiving line at the wedding, and sit at the parents table is there is one.